But I do ask the faithless what exactly they expect a responsible patriot to do.  That's where I get either no answer, or something dangerously insane.

I can think of several examples, the first that comes to mind is the Second Republic in Spain (esp the CNT party), the 1912 garment worker's strike in London, the government of Allende in Chile, the Haymarket Affair of 1886, the Whiskey Rebellion, gosh and ESPECIALLY Eugene Debs if you want a specifically American (USA) example.

There's a hell of a lot more to democracy than just showing up and voting.  I mean for one thing look at all the obstacles TO voting equating "equitable representation"

Outright ballot rigging/theft/fraud

Polls taxes/ID checks/other shenanigans to keep people from being ALLOWED to vote

Messing with polling stations availability, equipment, staffing levels, etc.

Gerrymandering and all the legalistic crap that goes along with that.

And in general a system wherein you almost HAVE to be rich to be elected to any political position of prominence, meaning DE FACTO exclusion of people from "lower" social classes.

And gosh let's not forget the Electoral College.

Some of the above is illegal, some legal, but that's a far cry from some kind of FAIRNESS wherein fairness is some kind of attempt to get the members of government to actually BE representative of the citizen's wishes.

So there's all kinds of answers to your question that don't devolve into "insanity".

A huge one is activism, whether activism ABOUT voting in general, voting equality and fairness, etc.  Or activism on issues that matter to people, whether blogosphere writing, phone calls, letter writing, etc.

That whole "redress grievances" part of the First Amendment in other words.

The second leg of activism is EDUCATION.  Share what you learn, what you know, raising awareness.  

Third is actually a combination of the first two, using activism to educate, organize and EFFECT change in EVERY way, not just at the ballot box, so that the government IS both representative AND accountable to the people.

Honestly, my first line of attack would be passing a Constitutional amendment stating that voting is a RIGHT for every (adult) citizen (of legal mental competence).  Period.  Without exception.

And what's with the "moving to another country" dig?  I don't live in USA anymore but I retain my citizenship exactly the same, which includes most definitely the right to vote.

Pax

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