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Stages of Grief Over Iraq

by BooMan
Wed Aug 22nd, 2007 at 11:05:16 PM EST

I could feel it coming long before Bush said it today. The Republicans are going to blame those that opposed the war, and forced its conclusion, for the bloodbath and the instability that ensue when we leave. They are going to say that we are the ones that didn't care about Iraqis.

Let me say in advance of this bloodbath that I really do care about Iraqis. I care a lot. I cared before we bombed, invaded, and broke their country. And I care now.

The Iraqi people are like a grandfather that has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. You have six months to a year to prepare yourself and manage your grief. When the day comes, you are sad. But you knew that day was coming. You are not distraught.

It's totally different from losing your daughter in a sudden and unexpected car accident. That's grief. That's despair.

I don't think the Republicans understand that people who have been watching the war in Iraq for the last four years have been internalizing their grief all along...preparing for the day when all hell breaks loose. The time is long since past when rational people could expect a remission of the metastasis. One last blast of radiation is not, and has not, solved the problem.

When I look at the estimated 600,000 dead in Iraq I am also thinking of the 2 or 3 or 5 million more dead that might now be inevitable casualties in the future.

I have written angry, despairing, plaintive, posts about Iraq. I've been going through the stages of grief for years now.

So, if you want to know why I am so hostile to the Bush administration, it is because I have already factored the future into my measure of their crime.

And Bush can threaten that millions will die if we pull out and I...I already knew that. I knew that two or three years ago. I knew that things were getting progressively worse in Iraq the longer we stayed and fought an impossible war.

It's not that I don't care about the consequences of withdrawal. It's that I have already prepared myself emotionally.



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They disbanded the military, and it sounded like a bad, bad idea. They fired all the Ba'athists, even though people sort of had to be Ba'athists to get government jobs, and that sounded like a damned bad idea. When I saw the looting on television, it was obvious that there was going to be no solution. The people in charge weren't up to the job, one that shouldn't have been done in the first place. The kidnappings, the forcing of hijab, the mass executions, the bombings, the ruined healthcare system, the destroyed economy, good gods, one thing after another followed on and it never gets better.

Everyone can talk about pressure and accountability all they want. Iraq has no government. Iraq has only anarchy and corruption, murder and theft. The artifacts of a proud and ancient civilization have been destroyed and the children of a modernized society dragged back to the Stone Age, kicking and screaming through the blood of their loved ones.

I can't even keep track anymore of the number of times that some picture or story from the hell on earth that Bush has made of that country has brought tears to my eyes. I can't even remember how many times I have cursed my inability to do anything about it besides rail at the unending bloodlust of the war criminals sitting in the White House. But the streets I walk on are quiet and safe, and my neighbors never try to shell my house, and I never have any particular reason to worry about discovering that a car bomb or missile bombardment has made me the only surviving member of my family. It's beyond guilt at this point, knowing that I've somehow been a party to this and yet escaped the murderous consequences, and I don't even know what to call it.

The situation in Iraq has been a shrieking, unyielding horror for years. It's been a funeral every day that you read the news, and if you don't read the news, you don't even have to look anymore to know that it was another funeral. Probably a lot of them.

At the beginning of the war, the first few months, I think, I saw a picture of an Iraqi baby. Eyes closed peacefully in a beautiful little face with a sweet mouth, but nothing left above the forehead, where the skin was hanging loose over what was left of its skull. It was the most evil thing I'd ever seen in all my life. Not the way Pat Robertson wants people to think evil is, the way you have to teach someone, where evil is something you've been trained to hate. But evil in the way that makes your soul shrink and your whole body feel nauseous, because something dear and hopeful has been turned into an abomination.

It will be terrible when we leave. But it's terrible now, and it will be terrible if we don't leave for another decade. Because we're the problem; not wanted. Some things, like that baby with its head half blown off, can't be fixed with more bombs and bullets and bullying.

by Natasha Chart (natasha.the at gmail dot com) on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 01:36:26 AM EST
It`s a terrible thing to say, but thank you for bringing back to the surface, the feelings that have been boiling in me for so long now. I know many people see that baby, & just feel like you do. I try & not despair, but the baby, the mother, the father, son, brother, or sister keep appearing in my mind. What horror these people have been visited with.

The difference between theists and atheists is that the atheists don't set the theists on fire for refusing to agree with them.
by KNUCKLEHEAD on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 02:00:43 AM EST
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There is a terrible reckoning coming in Iraq.  The delusional fantasies of Bush, Cheney, Rumsfeld and the neocons have made that inevitable.  It has been inevitable at least since General Shinseki was fired for suggesting that it would take several hundred thousand troops to maintain order in post-Saddam Iraq.  The list of political and military blunders this administration has committed then and since will occupy historians for centuries to come.  To suggest now that anyone else is responsible for the disaster the Bush admnistration and its neocon enablers have made for themselves is just another symptom of their sociopathy.

For every Iraqi who has died since American troops crossed the Kuwaiti border, for every American military man or woman who has come home dead or broken from that misbegotten misadventure, for every Iraqi woman selling herself in some Jordanian or Syrian refugee camp, their blood and their shame is on the hands of George Bush and Dick Cheney and Donald Rumsfeld and Richard Perle and Bill Kristol and all the rest of the neocon fantasists who sold us their evil fantasy.

Have I ever told you about my poor memory?

by ignorant bystander on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 07:48:20 AM EST
By the way, the Johns Hopkins/MIT estimate of the dead in Iraq that used to be over 600,000 that you mention above was recently updated to just under 1,000,000. Of course the Right still refuses to acknowledge any number of innocent victims of our occupation, but that's where the number stands.

Blue Meme just posted a great analogy:

So Dubya actually wants us to draw parallels between Vietnam and Iraq now?

Fine.

Here's one: refusing to concede the obvious didn't do Texan Lyndon Johnson much good. He handed the quagmire off to his successor, but Johnson was forever tarred with his tragic mistake.

Well said.

by RandyH on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 12:14:56 AM EST
Let's just say that you are an adult.
Not everyone, least of all those who have had a savage psyops burn pulled on them, is as willing to face the facts.
I will leave it at that.
While I mourn!

"Coach Leary, walking on water wasn't built in a day" -Kerouac
by poicephalus (tribalidentity@gmail.com) on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 12:44:53 AM EST
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by BooMan on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 01:58:03 AM EST
The next step is to start pressuring Iran to return POWs and MIAs.

Then if Americans won't get worked up over Iraqis, maybe they'll get worked up over American POWs and MIAs still held in captivity.  There's a major entrepreneurial opportunity waiting out there for some wingnut.

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by TarheelDem on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 07:25:32 AM EST
SEPTEMBER 15 2007  Washington DC    MARCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
by billjpa (billjpa@aol.com) on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 10:03:39 AM EST
The "bloodbath that ensues" is extremely unlikely to be as bad as the four and a half year bloodbath that has resulted the U.S. presence, and probably will not last as long. One of the reasons for that is that once the U.S. has left, and taken its death and destruction machines with it, no one who is still in the country will have the capacity to exceed the deadly and destructive capabilities of the Americans.

In any case, as long as the Americans remain, there is simply no chance for anything to improve. On the contrary, as the last four and a half years have demonstrated, as long as the U.S. is there, things will continue their escalating downward spiral.

Only when the Americans are gone from the scene will there ever be a chance for things to begin to turn around. It won't happen immediately, but at least there will be an opportunity for it to happen.

by Hurria (Muslawia@gmail.com) on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 06:00:01 PM EST
I agree.  Conventional wisdom saying if we leave a bloodbath will ensue strikes me simply as self justifying rhetoric.

No one knows exactly what will happen  but this 'bloodbath' rather implies that the Iraqi's are violent heathens who are just going to slaughter each other with no end in sight.  Our announcing we will start withdrawing is going to bring in the UN and other countries offer of help and support to help make the transition from occupied country to self rule as painless as possible.  I'm not saying a lot of killing won't be going on but the 'bloodbath' has already been visited upon the Iraqi people.

'Poverty is the worst form of violence'--Gandhi

by chocolate ink on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 06:16:11 PM EST
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You are right that no one knows exactly what will happen, but I have never bought the doomsday scenarios put forward by so many.

You might be interested in reading a diary I posted here last month on this subject titled "Will the Slaughter Get Worse if the U.S. Leaves Iraq? A Common-Sense Analysis": http://www.boomantribune.com/story/2007/7/25/01545/5568

by Hurria (Muslawia@gmail.com) on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 07:01:24 PM EST
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thanks for that link Hurria...great diary.(in fact I put it in with my other saved ones)  I don't know how I managed to overlook it completely.  You certainly wrote what I've been thinking for a long time but didn't have any real facts to back up some of my assumptions.

If I could I'd give it a big recommend because it seems worth it keep these facts about what our 'foreign fighters' are doing to Iraq in front of us...or to get the word out more to the general public about just what our military policies are really doing to Iraq and the Iraqi people.

'Poverty is the worst form of violence'--Gandhi

by chocolate ink on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 09:19:51 PM EST
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